In my short 23 years on this earth, I have become quite the bag lady. I’ve compiled all sorts of baggage from the many traumas of enduring childhood AND entering the adult world. I’ve got old baggage, new baggage, baggage that I borrowed and never gave back. I have got it all honey, or at least I did. Over the past few months I’ve been working on unpacking my baggage. I realized that my mind was too cluttered with things that don’t even matter anymore, and it was time for a change. So I turned to the mirror and really asked myself, “what’s going on with you girl?”
Like many of you, I question whether or not I’m on the right path. Am I working hard enough? Am I even in the right career field? Am I exercising and eating correctly? Have I made any progress toward my goals? Some days I’m kicking ass and others I’m crying for hours because I ain’t shit. At this point in time, I don’t have life figured out, but I’m learning how to roll with the punches and take whatever life throws my way. If you’ve come to a standstill where it seems like nothing is happening for you, then maybe you need to start unpacking your baggage.
I’ve discovered that in order for new blessings to enter your life, there must be room for them. If the club is at maximum capacity then no one can go in until someone else comes out. I’m a firm believer in every experience being a learning experience. Although you should learn from your mistakes, you don’t need to carry the mistake around with you. Take what is being taught and then move on from the situation. Do not take the negative with you. If we keep carrying our bad experiences around with us, we’ll never be ready for opportunities that may come our way.
Now there are so many ways you can unpack your baggage. You can start a journal, talk to your friends or family, or even start seeing a therapist just to name a few. You want to open up to a platform that is going to support you and provide you with a sense of relief. A lot of the time we keep our thoughts to ourselves and it helps to just get it out of our heads. Let someone know how you’re feeling and then discuss how you can continue to unzip and set those bags down. Maybe you’ve been holding onto something for a while now and you just need to get it off your chest, do it! I started this blog just to be able to vent about real life, so maybe even give that a try!
Now getting rid of that heavy baggage is a process. It’s not something that happens overnight, but the benefits will be noticeable. Once you start making room and focusing on your goals, you’ll start to see the difference it can make. I simply started listening to myself more and giving my emotions a fair shot at being truly felt, and it’s making a real impact on my life. I’ve confronted past emotional traumas and am now able to acknowledge that they happened, but not harbor any negative energy. I’m much more focused on my goals and what I need to do rather than what has been done to me.
So I’m challenging you to start setting down some of that baggage! Find a friend or loved one or just your journal and start with something small. Express everything that you can about it, acknowledge that it happened, and then move on. Continue doing so until you’re free of all the crap you’ve been toting around.
Feel free to let me know the techniques you guys use to unload your baggage and what differences you’ve noticed!